SKINNY = SKIN-NY
Lacking sufficient flesh; very thin: emaciated: lacking usual or desirable bulk, quantity, qualities, or significance.
Every Sunday for months now when I walk into church there is always a few woman commenting on my weight, referring to me as skinny or thin. I put the skinny definition up and left out the thin because it is the same. This is like my new nickname or something.
I FIND THIS COMMENT TO BE UNFLATTERING!!!
There are plenty of other unflattering things about me! Why don’t you want to talk to me about those things? Maybe you could help me out? What, are you not that deep?
I just had a baby 7 months ago. I wasn’t overweight when I was pregnant and I wasn’t overwheight after the delivery and I am at a perfect weight for my height as of this moment. Like this is some kind of miracle or something! GUESS WHAT LADIES, I EAT RIGHT AND I LIFT WEIGHTS, NO BIG SURPRISE THAT I LOOK GREAT!! HERE IS ANOTHER SHOCKER FOR YA…. WHEN I EAT UNHEALTHY GARBAGE AND SIT AROUND ON MY BUTT I BECOME OVERWEIGHT.
WARNING: IF YOU COMMENT ON MY WEIGHT, I MAY CHOOSE TO COMMENT ON YOUR APPEARANCE AND I WILL NOT LIE TO YOU!
My guess is that these women don’t realize they are hurting you when they call you “Skinny.” While the definition is true, our society has made it to be a word referring to those who are slender or lean.
You didn’t mention what these particular women look like relevant to weight. If I had to assume, I would, again, guess that they are all somewhat overweight. Coming from that camp myself, I can say that sometimes even eating right and working out doesn’t quite do it – at times there is a medical condition behind it. Also, these women are likely jealous of your flattering figure, and think they are complimenting you.
I would talk quietly with them one-on-one and let them know that it doesn’t feel flaterring or complimenting to you to be called “Skinny” or “Thin.” If they say anything along the lines I have just mentioned, perhaps you could offer to work out a plan with them and bea supporter for them if they are interested in losing weight also.
Regardless of their motives, remember that man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.
Blessings,
Toni
There are 303 medical reasons for weight gain (quick research study) and the biggest reason is denial. There are many unflattering things about me. This web site is not about the perfect christian, rather a real one that goes through good and bad times and continues to change, some things obviously take longer than others. Being too honest is one of them, I pray about it alot. Balance would be nice!
I know what you mean….always room for growth, amen?
My problem is not weight gain, but rather the inability to lose it. I have several issues that inhibit it, despite my best efforts….but, God (and I!) are working on those….
We’ve all got unfalterring things going on….I get angry VERY easily….working on that too….real Christians are the ones we need!
ooops – no spellcheck….make that “unflattering”
Thank you Toni, I will pray for you and you will pray for me
P.S. I get angry easy too.
First i would like to say i am struggling with the time difference between these posts and my clock… its 10:28 pm on dec 3rd and i feel behind times…. maybe my clock stopped and im living in yesterday…. is that good or bad?….So ok…. I would never walk up to any one and say “OH MY GOSH …. YOU ARE SO FAT!!!!”… why does any one think that it means anything different to walk up to someone and say ” OH MY GOSH YOU ARE SO SKINNY”…. its just as crushing…. and it makes us feel exactly the same way…. It could very well be just as hard for skinny people to swallow a twinky as it is for fat people to think about not eating it… if you literally mean ” you look great and im jealous” then say what you mean and mean what you say… we all know that words can be intrepreted in different ways.. but ” you are soooooo skinny” can only mean just that!!!… where in that could we possibly derive ” you look great”…. does any one ever consider that skinny people lose sleep at night for the same reasons that fat people do… my pants dont fit… or my husband doesnt find me attractive…i can imagine its just as hard making love to a bag of bones as it is to make love to a tub of lard the only difference is the cushion…and the fact that skinny people would never call anyone out about their weight.
I am so skinny that I could swallow a meat ball and look pregnant
So, is it ok if I call you skinny?
Or should I read the blog again?
You can retaliate by calling me anything you want.
You need to fix your clock, Skinny…. It is NOT 3:20 tomorrow morning yet.
Backstripe, since you are the most ancient and elderly of all the Elders you have earned the right to call me Skinny, Scrawny, Toothpick, Chicken legs, String Bean and French Fry.
Read the post again anyway!!
I fixed my clock and on Sunday I’m gonna fix yours!
Yes, ma’am…
… it doesn’t matter what people call ya…
should i tell ya what people call me???
remember “whose” you are…
i think you’re just right!
…and another thing…
love them…just love them…just love them…just love them…just love them…just love them…just love them…just love them…just love them
umm…have you talked to these women about it yet? Are they your friends? if it really bothers you, talk to them about it unassumingly, but ultimately we live for an audience of ONE! I can understand being called names, I’ve been overweight most of my life, and i do truly wish I was thin. Tub of lard is not fun. One time my cousin called me, “Miss America” (we were kids), and i didn’t know who or what that was, so then I asked him, “what’s that” and he said real mean, “That’s the fattest girl on the earth!” so I started crying and ran to my grandmother and boldly proclaimed as I was crying hysterically, “JJ called me Miss America!!” “SLAP! callese! Go outside to cry” my grama told me! she didn’t think being called Miss America was so bad. LOL
This post is the Amy I know and love….